Love Trumps Hate

What a weekend! We had a great one personally, but seeing how many people showed up to fight for women’s equality made it extra special. I love these photos taken from marches all over the world. It gives me goosebumps just to look. Scrolling through social media on Saturday night and talking to friends who attended marches around the country gave me a sense of hope that I didn’t think I’d feel in the coming years. Although I didn’t join any of the marches myself, I felt proud to be an American woman, and supported everyone marching in spirit.

Last week, I wrote in a post that I was going to skip watching the inauguration, which caused a bit of a stir in my email inbox, as you might imagine. A lot of you were supportive of my decision (thank you for your amazing emails!), but more than a few told me I need to accept the fact that Trump is president, and stop spreading negativity. The second part of that sentence, yes. 100%. Although I’m sometimes terrified for our futures, I will aim to spread love, positivity, and hope going forward, instead of hate, negativity, and despair. That is something that I promise to strive for when talking about any topic here on Lemon Stripes.

A few of the emails I received mentioned that I need to accept this presidency and hope for the best. And here’s the thing… I accept the presidency. Of course I do, I don’t have a choice, but this article pretty much summed up exactly how I feel:

I accept that Trump is the president. But I condemn his unabashed bigotry, and his hateful comments about women, Muslims, Hispanics, and other marginalized groups. I condemn him for mocking Serge Kovaleski, and for welcoming white supremacists into his administration. I condemn him for running a campaign based on division and for lying to the American people. I condemn his inability to admit personal fault. I condemn his lack of intellectual curiosity and his disrespect for American norms and values. On the most fundamental level, I condemn Trump as a human being.

For those of you who’ve asked me to stop speaking my mind about politics here, that’s not going to happen. You don’t have to agree with me, and a little healthy debate is always welcome. What you should know is that I’m coming from a place of love. Love for people who are different than I am. Love for the systems we have in place for those who can’t support themselves. Love for women and our right to choose what’s best for our bodies.

But I’m sure there will be plenty of times in the next four years that I want to talk about something important to me politically. I’m lucky to have a voice that lots of people hear, and while I plan to continue with home makeovers, healthy recipes, and lots of outfit inspiration, I’m also going to use that voice to speak up about what matters most.

So much love to all of you!

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  • Annette

    Thanks for having a voice…what makes me sad is when something important is going on in the world and a lifestyle bloggers won’t pop their heads out of their bubbles to at least acknowledge it.

    • Me too! It’s kind of odd, right? It’s like people are afraid to make any kind of stand.

  • Megan

    I so appreciate this post! I have to admit, I felt very disappointed in bloggers who didn’t even mention the marches this weekend–even when some of the largest ones were happening in their city! Your post emphasized that it’s not about political affiliation, but human decency. Thank you!

    • EM

      I agree. It is not about political party/affiliation but about the person, behaviors, etc. (Personally I am a registered R who did not vote for Trump and simply cannot support him due to the things he has said regarding women, attacking the Goild Star family, disabled journalist, etc.)

      Anyway, it is your blog Julia where you can and should feel free to express your opinions.

      • Thank you so much, both of you! Political parties aside, it’s about standing up for what’s right morally. It’s about real people with real problems having a voice.

  • Kim @ Vintage Pretties

    This is your space to share all of your experiences and beliefs as you wish. Thank you for sharing a message of love and acceptance.

  • Emily Pinto

    I am so proud of you and this post. This is your platform to speak about anything you want, and it makes me happy that you did discuss the marches that happened this weekend. It was powerful and inspiring!! I skipped watching the inauguration too and don’t feel bad about it one bit.

  • Janice Darlyne

    You rock! Love that you are fearless in sharing your opinion. This is YOUR blog. I love coming to this blog everyday and I am with you and her and her and her and her and everyone in advancing rights for all man and WOMANkind!

  • Amber Marie Werner

    I love this post so much. Keep sharing!! I’ve received the same feedback and have been told to “calm down” or “keep my thoughts to myself”. That will never happen. Love love love.
    Xoxo Amber

  • YES, YES, and YES. Thank you Julia. Now more than ever we have to speak up for those who are most vulnerable. It is not our job to just “accept” the President, rather it is our job to hold him and those in government accountable. We are going to have to fight like hell for the next four years to protect so many of the rights we not only hold dear but have probably taken for granted. Thank you for speaking up. Millions of women around the world coming together to fight for equality. How can you not be completely inspired and hopeful from that? This weekend was just the beginning. xx

    • Jessica

      What an important statement Jess, that we do not “accept” our President but rather hold him (and gov’t) accountable. well said, and thanks for saying it!

    • Megan

      I SO agree with this point, so wanted to chime in. Yes, I accept the results of the election. I know Trump is president. I’m not (and I don’t believe the millions of women who marched with me are) trying to change that. I AM going to be keeping him and other elected officials accountable for 1) what they say, 2) what they do, and 3) how their actions (or lack thereof) are affecting the constituents.

      For example, when I see people like GA senator Chris McDaniel trying to get social media engagement by making pithy comments like “if the women at these marches can pay for tattoos, body piercings, plane tickets and signs, why should they be asking for birth control,” I will tell him that in my opinion, he should be spending less time trying to get likes on social media and more time advocating for the people in his state, where half a million people gained health insurance coverage through the ACA marketplace.

    • I hope that it’s just the beginning of not only more peaceful protests, but Trump hearing what we have to say! Maybe it will sink in eventually 🙂

      • Cheryl Christine

        You can’t possibly be expected to be heard let alone respected wearing a vagina hat, screaming vitriol and physically accosting.

    • Cheryl Christine

      Finding hatred, name calling like a little baby, getting off on defaming a character, growing violence and vitriol is inspired by Satan and you are proud of that, such a travesty

  • LCB

    Hear, hear! It’s refreshing to hear bloggers be open about their politics. I hope you will continue to do so. On a personal note, I find that sentiment that those who did not vote for Trump should get over it and support him since his success is what’s best for America to be bizarre. I will support Americans speaking out about American values which is what the Women’s March is all about but I cannot and will not support a man who has allowed such bigotry and fear-mongering to dominate his campaign and administration. That’s not a vision for my country that I will ever embrace.

  • Leslie

    good for you! If people don’t like what you have to say about what You believe they can read another blog-we all know there are plenty of them to choose from! This administration affects us all-good and bad and you have a huge and wonderful platform here to share you thoughts and feelings on what’s going on. And just like if people didn’t like your kale salad recipe last week, they can skip a day of your posts. Don’t back down!

  • Dana Mannarino

    1. I’m obsessed with that sweater.
    2. I love when people talk about their political beliefs and make really great arguments in smart, polite, healthy ways. To be honest, I’m not 100% educated enough on politics and really just brushed everything off when it came to the election (which will not happen again) because I couldn’t even wrap my head around most things. I usually stay out of the talks and just try to listen to both sides. After this weekend, I was just proud to be a woman. I was proud of everyone who stood up for us and it was really eye opening. So yeah, this is YOUR platform and I totally respect you for putting your opinion out there for discussion!

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  • Tiffany

    I discovered you on Instagram a few months ago and love your posts about fashion and home Decore. This is the first time of ever visited the blog and let’s just say I love you even more now! I couldn’t agree with you more about everything you posted above. As a woman of color and also as a woman who served in our Nation’s Army, I do except Trump as our president,however, I do not and I will not except his intolerant views and that is why I marched this weekend. I will continue to pray for him because I do want our country to flourish but he has to be willing to meet the other 52% that don’t agree with him part of the way…that’s what compromise is!

    • Oh my goodness, thank you so so much! Good for you for marching this weekend, it must have been an incredible experience!

  • EmilyRose Frasca

    Julia, this post is exactly why I follow your blog. I appreciate your voice and the fact that you always share a clear opinion on any given topic.
    This is a unique time in America. I think if we can all continue to educate ourselves, raise awareness, and stand up for one another, the love will grow exponentially.

  • Megan Diffley

    I LOVE everything about this. #StrongWomenStrongMinds

  • I’m glad you brought this up because I had mixed emotions about the marches this weekend. While I’m all for peaceful protest and expressing one’s beliefs in the spirit of democracy, I don’t see how speakers like Madonna and Ashley Judd are using their platform in a responsible and thoughtful manner. The controversial things they said only add fuel to the fire. You can’t preach about kindness and tolerance and then act out of hate and rage. You can’t say you believe in democracy but only when it works in your favor. The reality is whether we like it or not, Donald Trump was elected president. There were many people who responded to his message regarding national security, job loss, and healthcare. President Obama left a lot of Americans feeling disenchanted and ignored and Trump tapped into this feeling of frustration. And it wasn’t just “angry white men.” 53% of white women voters voted for Trump. The thought running through my mind on Saturday when I saw such a tremendous turnout was, where were all these women on November 8th? I don’t think they voted for Trump but clearly they all didn’t respond to Hillary’s message either. She was untrustworthy and I think that ultimately was her downfall. I think moving forward that the best thing for our nation is to try to heal the divide and the tension by really listening to one another, respecting our differences, keeping an open mind, and being the change we want to see. Perpetuating hysteria and hate is not the answer. Instead, us women(and men) should get involved in our communities, write to our congressmen and women, volunteer for local political groups, or better yet, start your own group. But let’s be productive and positive.

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    • Jessika Remolona

      As a respectful reply to your post, I wanted to point out that Hillary won the popular vote by ~3 million people (http://cnn.it/2iidDcu). That is also the approximated number of people (not just women) that attended marches on Saturday (http://bit.ly/2jU6imK). Not to say there is a definite correlation between the two, but it is an interesting comparison. In my mind, they DID vote. Or, some chose to abstain, for their own reasons, which you outline nicely. I can appreciate your thoughts on moving forward with a positive attitude, but I also think that we as white women must approach the next four years with full understanding of the privileges that we have that so many others (women and men) do not. And by privilege, I mean, that we can go about our daily lives with a general sense of positivity, and be unafraid under most circumstances. MANY ethnic groups, neighbors, mothers, fathers, people, cannot say the same. Some of their fear is directly related to statements that our new commander in chief have made. Some comes from emboldened hate groups. Some comes from the unknown future that they have in this country. Some they have lived with their entire lives. When we recognize that there are those who are marginalized, struggling, and afraid, and that we have a platform that can help, we need to use it.

      • I don’t agree with or support Donald Trump’s controversial statements. However, it’s important to note that bias and intolerance exists on both sides of the aisle. Hillary called half of Trump’s supporters deplorable, irredeemable, and un-American. She labeled them all under the umbrella of sexist, racist, xenophobic, and homophobic. Furthermore, her staff insulted Catholics and Evangelicals going as far as to mock their religion and discussing spring movements to change Catholicism to suit their agenda. And the Women’s March excluded pro-life groups from participating who have a right to their view and have a right to express it. My point is we cannot preach tolerance, inclusion and kindness only when it aligns with our personal beliefs. That’s hypocritical. We must lead by example.

        • Jessika Remolona

          Its probably not a fruitful conversation for us to have regarding Hill vs Don. I understand your final point, so thanks for that. It seems as though the tolerance, inclusion and kindness in the final point is something that both sides need to work on. As long as we can reach out to the other, express our needs and feel listened to, we’re at a good starting point.

          • I agree 100% 🙂

          • Now this is the type of debate that I want to see! Both sides stating their opinion with respect and understanding of the other person’s view. Bravo, ladies! And thanks for doing it here :0

    • DHoffs

      If you google Ashley Judd’s speech – it was actually written by a high school aged student, named Nina Donovan. Nina wrote the poem called “Nasty Woman” Ashley liked it so much that she asked for her permission to perform it and gave her full credit. Wether or not you like what it says …. pretty incredible it came from a 19 year old!!

    • Sara

      Trump lost the popular vote by almost 3 million people. So they were there on Saturday, out protesting the sexual predator who is now our president. Hillary was not untrustworthy. That was a narrative pushed by Republicans and now we find out, by Russian hackers as well. Trump is our president but not by legitimate means. I think that is one reason he is so insecure. He knows that he didn’t win fair and square. And now we will all pay the price. History will not be kind to Trump and to those who do not hold him accountable.

      • Respectfully, I disagree regarding Hillary’s pension for lying. You may find this article informative. The Wall Street Journal is a pretty reliable source and they certainly weren’t pro-Trump. And while we are on the topic of sexual predators, her husband took advantage of an intern half his age and then lied about it under oath. http://www.wsj.com/articles/the-press-buries-hillary-clintons-sins-1476401308?mobile=y

        • Sara

          We will have to agree to disagree. And Bill Clinton was not running for president. But Donald Trump the sexual predator was. As a mom I can never look past the man who talks about grabbing women’s genitals and talks about how hot his daughter is and about how he walked in on pageant contestants while they were changing and nude (and even the teen ones where the girls were as young as 14). This is a three times married man with 5 kids from 3 different women who cheated on at least 2 of the 3. And people say, oh I don’t condone that behavior but you really do if you voted for him. Hillary was not perfect by any means but she was head and shoulders about this small, narcissistic bigoted man. He may have won the presidency but he did not win the popular vote and only about a third of the country voted for him. The women’s march on Saturday which was 3 times bigger than his inauguration clearly shows how unpopular he is. He may be our president but we do not have to condone what we know is wrong. The crazy press conference on the first day disputing the size of the crowds was the most bizarre and disturbing thing I have ever seen. They are setting up a narrative that only Donald Trump is to be believed and not the hundreds of other media sources. This is what an authoritarian leader looks like. We all must reject this kind of behavior.

          • Bill Clinton was the president. In fact, he was impeached for lying under oath about his sexual relationship with a 24 year old intern. He also was accused of rape by Juanita Broderick and sexual harassment by Paula Jones. I’m not disputing the things Donald Trump has said but selective moral outrage seems hypocritical. Just as women like Madonna and Ashley Judd at a march in the name of tolerance and human rights turn around and speak with hatred in their hearts and use vulgar and crude language. I have a 14 year old daughter and I would never want her hear the “poem” Ashley Judd recited. I’m simply pointing out that in order for our country to find common ground, we need to respect one another. Two wrongs don’t make a right. I’m signing off now because I’m sure we could debate this all night. Thank you for making your points and for a spirited discussion. I wish you well and I hope you have a great night.

          • Sara

            Yes, I know Bill Clinton was the president. I’m just saying disputing what Hillary’s husband was or was not is a moot point. That’s very sexist to blame the wife for what her husband did. I don’t blame Melania or Ivanna or Marla for Trump being the pig that he is. Bill Clinton should not even come into the conversation. Hillary was not accused of sexual assault, Trump was by dozens. So the moral outrage is right where it should be, with the guy who was the predator. I’m just shocked that Trump supporters can justify his behavior, that’s all. Madonna and Ashley Judd are not the POTUS. Once again, you are blaming everyone except Trump. Yes, we need to respect one another but it’s very hard to respect Trump voters who cannot admit that his moral character is lacking. Women marched because of the way that he marginalizes them. That’s why millions turned out. We understand that he is the president but I’ll be damned if I normalize his behavior or don’t call him out when needed. So I appreciate the discussion, but Trump voters need to realize we are not going anywhere. Two thirds of this country did not vote for him, do not like him and will resist. I really hope he proves me wrong but I am not holding my breath.

          • I wasn’t going to post anymore but I feel I need to clear a few things up:
            1. I never stated who I voted for anywhere in this thread. Four candidates were on the ballot.
            2. I don’t blame Hillary for her husband’s admitted behavior. I’m simply pointing out the hypocrisy of cherry picking moral outrage. Why was no one horrified back in 1998? I think that is a very relevant point when the topic of sexual predators is brought up.
            3. I said several times I don’t condone Trump’s statements.
            4. I’m sorry you find it difficult to accept others who do not hold your opinion. However, I believe that in order to move forward, we as a nation must learn to respectfully disagree and try to find common ground.
            5. I respect your opinions and I wish you well. But I am done debating this. You are welcome to have the last word:)

          • Sara

            Who says no one was horrified in 1998? Bill Clinton was impeached. That sounds like someone took it seriously to me. And even if people did not take it seriously, it is still ok that Trump is a sexual predator? That’s never ok. What I find difficult to understand is how people make derogatory comments about Bill Clinton and Madonna and Ashley Judd, but seem to be surprised when others do not accept Trump’s behavior. Trump is the POTUS, I am not nearly as concerned about what anyone else is doing. He is the one that should be held to the higher standard. Totally agree that we need to move forward as a nation. I believe that is Trump’s job as POTUS to reach out to the 2/3 of the country who did not support him. Besides his acceptance speech which was very conciliatory, he has done nothing but play to his base. That will not bode well for him. Time will tell if he reaches out and tries to embrace the rest of the country. For all of our sakes, I sincerely hope he does. Have a good evening.

          • Cheryl Christine

            Trump is no more a sexual predator then you are a waste of space.

          • Cheryl Christine

            “Pointing out the hypocrisy of cherry picking moral outrage”

            Absolutely.

        • Cheryl Christine

          Yes Kate replying with facts rather then speculation is a real mind fuck for anyone on this Speculative Russian rumor mill.

      • Mary

        I also disagree. Whether you like it or not, the President is elected by an Electoral College in this country. So your statement “he didn’t win fair and square” is not correct. I want to hold Trump accountable as much as anyone – Dem or Rep. On that we agree. Let’s move on, keep an open mind, and continue the dialogue.

        • Sara

          We will have to agree to disagree on Trump. He won by questionable collusion with Russia. And frankly, I am shocked ANYONE can defend him after the horrible, divisive policies he has tried to push through these last few days. People are protesting and resisting and I don’t see that getting any better unless he changes his tune. Then, maybe then, we will give him a chance. He needs to realize that the majority of Americans did not vote for him and do not support him. You reap what you sow and he deserves every bit of the backlash against him for running such a hateful campaign and continuing to stroke the flames. It’s unpatriotic that he sends his press secretary out to lie to America. We are not stupid and we will not allow this behavior to be normalized. #resist

          • Cheryl Christine

            A person making decisions based on speculative news is pretty sad.

      • Cheryl Christine

        Sara your comment was filled with nothing but name calling – predator, gas lighting – he didn’t win fair and square not by legitimate means, crystal ball thinker – history will not be kind…
        Your comment is one big bloviating hot mess driven by fear you are cultivating and spreading with such baselessness.

    • Hi Kate! Thanks for your thorough response. I have a question though, what about Ashley Judd’s performance didn’t you like? I certainly understand where you are coming from about Madonna’s “blow up the White House” comments. But I watched all of Ashley Judd’s performance and didn’t have any issues with it. Thanks for any clarification you can provide!

      • Hi Kelsey. The way you received her recitation of this “poem” is certainly your prerogative. However, I don’t know how a march that preaches love and acceptance and then features Ashley Judd comparing the president to Hitler, targeting his daughter Ivanka and calling her his favorite sex symbol, repeatedly using the word pussy which is a vulgar term ( that I realize Donald Trump used and which I don’t condone), and accusing him of homophobia, transphobia, white supremacy and white privilege which have zero basis to back that up. She goes on to reference Confederate flags and swastikas which this president has never endorsed. It’s fine to have issues with his politics and his previous statements. I get that. But does spewing hate and blaming him for everything under the sun really going to move us forward in the right direction? This kind of rhetoric is reckless and dangerous and doesn’t belong at a peaceful protest.

  • guest

    Thank you for the post. You are in a position to actually make a difference and actually change minds since you have a voice and a following. The issue goes beyond Trump and the election and I hope that you do not let those who asked you to be quite silence you – we can only change the future if we stay vocal. Perhaps once a week or once a month you can deep dive an issue that is important to women? And we can get some healthy discussion and engagement happening here on your website – I bet we will find that we can agree on a lot more then we will disagree on.

  • Emma

    Julia thank you for your honestly and please keep speaking your mind! I agree with you 100% (proudly marched in Chicago on Saturday). Please don’t let people unfollowing change your content, this is why I like your blog!

  • It’s been interesting to see how various bloggers have handled the election and I have to say that you’ve been very fair in explaining your feelings/opinions without alienating others. Of course I agree with you, so I’m probably too biased to really evaluate that!

    I do think that there is a difference between lecturing readers and sharing your own views, and you’ve definitely steered clear of the lectures. That’s what personally bothers me from either side with bloggers!

    And I was at the march in D.C. – it was amazing!

    • Thank you so much for saying that, it really means a lot! Good for you for marching this weekend, it must have been such an incredible experience. One for the books!

  • Thanks for being honest! I feel the same way you do. I accept he is our country’s president and I am not going around saying he is not my president. However, I do not support his views and stance on many issues. I do not support him as a person who has taken a negative stance against women’s rights, people of color, and people with disabilities. I do not like him as a person what so ever.

  • Ashley Vickney

    YASS! Thank you for sharing! I completely respect your opinion and believe you have the ability to share it. Especially when you’re just asking for love and respect. I have to commend you, I’ve been a reader for awhile and I plan to be a reader until the end. Thank you again.
    xx
    Ashley

  • Tammy

    I really hope you don’t let the haters keep you from being honest and voicing your opinion. You have done so in a respectful manner and I cannot be more than happy to see you use your platform to have discussions (Not saying I don’t love your fashion or lifestyle posts just as much lol) 🙂 Personally, I feel like you are doing something that other bloggers are afraid of doing as to not lose traffic.

    • Thank you for saying that! And don’t worry… I won’t let the haters “win”, trust me 🙂

  • LOVE THIS POST! Thank you for using your platform to talk about this. And yes, you should keep posting about politics. At this moment in the country’s history, it’s essential that we keep talking and holding our government accountable. I attended the march in NYC this weekend and it was incredibly powerful. Such a strong reminder that love DOES trump hate. xx

    • Good for you! I bet it was an incredible experience. It’s something you will never forget!

  • Jessica

    keep doing you, Julia! Democracy is a wonderful thing, even when it doesn’t go exactly the way we want it to. Just got to keep moving forward.

  • Wendy

    Thank you for posting this! Bloggers do have a platform beyond showing what someone is wearing and it is important to use that platform. You gave your opinion in a genuine way, without demanding anyone agree with you (I happen to agree but that’s neither here nor there). I give a little side eye to bloggers who DIDN’T say anything about the inauguration and/or women’s marches this weekend and blithely skipped along to their latest sponsored post. Personally, I read blogs for all the content, not just the fashion-y content. More than ever, it is important to be an informed citizen of the world.

    • Thank you so much for saying that! Fashion is fine and all, but we can’t pretend like none of this is happening. That’s just insane!

  • Get it girl, I’m right there with you! We can accept that he is president and still stand up for what we believe in.

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  • Katherine

    YES!!!!!! xx

  • Jess Z

    YES to everything about this post!!! This weekend and this post were all about democracy and our constitutional rights in action, and both are SO empowering! Much love <3

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  • Elizabeth

    YESSSSSS!!! Love you girl!

  • Eva

    Keep speaking up! We need to have people with influence keep these issues alive – we can accept this presidency while still fighting for decency and respect in America!

  • DHoffs

    HI! I am new to your site as I heard about you from a few local friends … I too am in Stam. Love your words!! Words that will keep me coming back to your site on the daily … along with the rest of your content 🙂

    • Hey neighbor! So happy you’re following along. Thank you so much for the kind words!

  • You don’t need our blessing, but I’m glad so many readers are chiming in in support. Keep writing, feeling, and fighting, Julia! The key now is to figure out how to harness our cocktail of emotion and channel it into action that spreads love. It is the duty of privilege to fight for equality, and I’m all in. Do you have action items you’re already planning to take? Always curious to hear about other people’s approaches.

    • Thank you so much, Helen! I think the key is spreading both love AND change, making ourselves both heard and listened to. If that can happen, we’re golden!

      As of right now, I’m trying to figure out my next steps and what will make the most impact. I’m lucky to have a platform that has eyeballs on it everyday, so I want to use it to make a difference and encourage others. I’m not 100% sure how I’ll do that yet, but it’s constantly on my mind!

      • Look forward to hearing more down the line– and if you ever want a sounding board or thoughtful dialogue, please do feel free to reach out. (helen@aculturedpearl.com) Enjoy your trip in the meantime!

  • Danielle Kingsbury

    So proud of this post – thank you!! i consider myself an independent who now leans left (although I voted for GWB in the first election that i was eligible) but this is just about basic human decency. I still don’t know how we got to this point, but I’m trying to learn. This post makes me eager to hear more 🙂

  • Amy Tretter

    Yes yes..thank you for honesty

  • Elsa

    First time commenter. Thank you for this! I don´t like blogs that completely ignore the election and key world events and go on about clothes and furniture as if nothing EVER happened. Beautiful things are nice, but a touch of reality is needed every once in a while.

  • Natalie R

    I appreciate that you mention what’s going on in the ‘real world’ instead of always sticking to clothing and recipes. Thanks for speaking your mind and having the courage to share it with us!

  • amycjes

    Bravo on this post. And thank you for posting the quote from the Bustle article, because it sums up my feelings beautifully.

  • Sara

    First time commenter but bravo to you for speaking up for human decency. I was discouraged by the women whose posts I saw putting down those who marched and who wondered, what were they marching for? Really? They are part of the problem with that attitude. I can accept that Trump is my president but don’t tell me I need to get over it. We will NEVER EVER “get over it.” I will keep fighting and hold him and his minions accountable. We cannot normalize his behavior and we must speak up for those who cannot. Thank you for your thoughts!

  • Thanks for sharing this. So many bloggers shy away from sharing their views, so this is awesome!

  • Meg

    I am someone who voted for Donald Trump. My decision was not an easy one. My brother is disabled. I’ve dedicated my life to working at a non-profit for intellectually and developmentally disabled men, women and children. I am staunchly pro-choice and a firm believer in gender equality. In fact, there were many, many times in the campaign that I actually cringed when he tweeted or made remarks.

    I voted for Trump because I am a fiscal conservative. I believe that the Affordable Care Act is broken and there is a better way to ensure healthcare for each citizen. Since the ACA was signed into law, my insurance premiums have skyrocketed and coverage has gotten worse. I live in an area that has been negatively impacted by a surge of non documented immigrants in the past 3 years. It doesn’t mean I’m anti-immigration or racist. I’d just like to see our antiquated immigration system fixed. In fact, one of my resolutions is to become fluent in a few different languages so that I can better assist some of the families at work. Be the change, right?

    Basically, I’m trying to reach out to say, not everyone who voted for Trump is a monster. Julia, thanks for writing a throughtful post about your thoughts without being insulting. I’ll continue to read because it’s important to hear different perspectives!

    • melissa

      Meg – this is a really interesting perspective. I’m trying to read opinions on both sides (from people who appear to be reasonable and educated, like yourself) and would love to hear from you if you’re willing — how has your area being negatively impacted?
      I think the weekly report Trump has proposed on crimes committed by refugees in sanctuary cities will be really interesting. I want to hear solid examples on both sides of the debate to get the full story. thanks in advance.

  • Yes yes yes! thank you for speaking up and using your platform for positive change. I come for posts like these where we get to know the real person behind the blog. The honest authentic content that doesn’t just brush over the topic of politics because it doesn’t fit in. “Lifestyle” includes what’s going on in the world!

  • Lisa Lopez

    Thank you Julia for this! I think you should consider running for an elected position at a local level. We need more passionate people in politics. I’m also very impressed with everything going on in the world today that you brought it into your blog in a non-confrontational way. It was such a relief to not see a post about clothes, recipes or other everyday topics (which I love but something very substantial and important went down in our country these last couple of days) but you also showed that you are a REAL person and not oblivious to other important things going on around us. Also you have depth to you and not the typical narcissistic, shallow blogger. BRAVO for a job well done!

  • Julie Beattie

    Very well put! Politics isn’t just for the poly-sci majors, politics is something EVERYONE should be involved in. This is, admittedly, something I’m just learning myself. I think it’s wonderful you’re able and willing to use your platform to speak up about causes you’re passionate about. (If not here, where??) Your blog has always been a must-read for me, keep doing what you’re doing!

  • Jamie

    Thanks so much for sharing. I find it very strange when other bloggers don’t even acknowledge what is happening. I can’t tell you how many times I scratched my head on Nov 9th when I logged into Bloglovin to find people posting their regular content! Hello, we just experienced a MAJOR world event, how can you not even comment!? at least don’t post that day, but don’t pretend that everything is fine and dandy and nothing has changed.

    I’ve read a lot of commentary about that Teen Vogue article, and how people (men) can’t believe that women can care about fashion and makeup AND world events. Like it is OK for men to have an article about politics in GQ next to a photo spread of half naked woman, but god forbid a woman try to talk about both fashion and politics, she shouldn’t be taken seriously. So anyways, THANK YOU and please keep it up!

  • Paula Suzanne

    THANK YOU

  • hithaonthego

    YES! You know how I feel about this (‘with great power comes great responsibility’), and I’m so heartened by the productive dialogue happening here. When we stay in our echo chambers and think what we believe is right, we lose. Diversity – in opinions, race, religion, orientation – is one of the things that makes America great. I’m so thrilled to see a conversation we have often offline has been brought here for others to participate in. And as for this nasty woman, I still got a lot of fight (and political articles) left in me 😉

  • Alison Greenspon

    Yay!! Bravo! You expressed my feelings about Trump & his Presidency to a TEE. I’m so glad you’ll continue to share your voice.

  • Shawn

    Good for you – keep on using your voice! It’s your right as an American and you can’t let anyone take that away. Fight the good fight!

  • Cathy

    Thank you for this! I think an important part of democracy is for it to be successful people need to participate- All. The. Time. It’s not a thing where you say I voted and I’m done for four years. Civil and rational discourse needs to occur everywhere and by everyone. I know it isn’t always fun but we need to learn to control our tempers and listen to each other. And maybe those in government can learn from us.

  • 100% agreed. At this point it’s immoral not to speak up and stand up.

  • THANK YOU!!! Thank you for speaking up. I am so impressed by the number of women I follow on social media that have spoken up in the past week. I know you have a lot to lose. The quote you included in this post explains exactly how I feel. I have been, and continue to be, inspired by the number of women and men standing up for the values we hold dear to us. Now more than ever, we need to keep speaking up!

  • Stitch Artisan

    Well said! You eloquently summarized exactly how I feel about the current state of politics in our country. Thank you for continuing to speak your mind and not letting others bully you into not talking about important matters to you.

  • THANK YOU for using your platform to speak out and fight for what’s right.

  • Cheryl Christine

    Condemning a man who condemned makes you exactly his equal.