We’re having a…

Finding out the sex of your baby is arguably the most exciting moment of pregnancy. I truly have no idea how anyone has the patience or self-control to wait until birth.

This time around I was able to take a blood test at 10 weeks and we had our results about a week later. When I got the email, I had been warned by my doctor that it would first contain all of the genetic screening results and then I would be able to click on a separate button to find out if it was a girl or a boy.

Of course, I got the email at 8 am on a weekday when Anel was at work. We had agreed that we’d open it together, so I drove 30 minutes to his studio and waited for him to have a break between clients because there was no way I could wait until that night. We opened the email together and my hand shook as I clicked the button. It took a second to load, and then…

“You’re having a boy!”

We both immediately teared up and knew right then and there that our family was complete. Our baby boy is the last piece of the puzzle.

Although we both agreed we would be thrilled with a boy or a girl, once we found out it was a boy, we both realized how much we subconsciously wanted one. That entire day, neither of us could stop smiling. My cheeks physically hurt from how happy I was.

Just like when we found out with Amalia, I immediately felt more of a connection to the baby growing inside me, but this time even stronger. I’m so so so excited to be a mom to a baby boy and experience motherhood in a totally new way.

And, of course, for a blue and white nursery which has been a fantasy in my head for over a decade.

While trying to conceive, I did a lot of spiritual work including the meditations from Spirit Babies (a really “out there” book and concept but it worked for me!), and every time I would meditate and connect with my future baby, he showed himself as a boy.

And remember the psychic I mentioned in this post who said I would get pregnant in August? Well, he also told me that the baby would be a boy. So even before we found out, Anel and I were both pretty convinced that it was a boy.

To drive it in even more, whenever we told a friend or family member that we were pregnant, they would guess that it was a boy. One girlfriend told me I was giving off major boy energy which made me laugh. She was right!

When we planned our holiday card photos, we wore all blue but we actually found out the sex the day after which worked out perfectly because I’m far too tired to plan another photoshoot with the whole family.

Before we found out, because we’re Type A and slightly insane, we had a list of boy and girl names all written out. We had at least a dozen ideas for girls and a single boy’s name. Turns out it was hard for us to come up with boy names for some reason. But he has a name and it’s perfect. We’re not sharing it with anyone until he’s born though.

It still feels so weird to say “he” when referring to my baby. I’ve obviously never been pregnant with a boy and sometimes I forget and then get excited all over again.

Amalia really wanted a sister but has come around to the idea of a brother. She keeps telling me how she’s going to dress him up as Elsa while she’s Anna and how she’s going to buy him beautiful dresses. I guess he’ll have to comfortable with his masculinity from an early age!

I’ll end with a story of my 12-week ultrasound where the technician got a shot of him from a certain angle where we could 100% confirm that he was a boy 🙂 Seeing a tiny penis growing inside me was surreal. I don’t know if I’ll ever get over that one!

Photos by Julia Dags.

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  1. Lauren said:

    Congratulations! So happy for you & your family

    11.9.20 · Reply
  2. Lisa said:

    Congratulations! One lucky little boy!

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  3. Cathy said:

    Congratulations from this mom of three boys! I’m very happy for your family!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  4. Ada said:

    This truly made my morning!!! Congratulations! I know exactly how you felt! My daughter turned 3 in July when we found out we were expecting again and we all hope it was boy too! We are also now expecting a boy and couldn’t be happier! Congrats to you all!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  5. Erin said:

    Congratulations! Thrilled for you and your family!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  6. Allison said:

    I am so incredibly happy for you, Anel and Amalia!!!! It is fabulous news amidst some pretty stressful times. My last baby was a boy after having two sets of twin girls (I know…we cray!). There really is something very special about having a son. YAY!!!!!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  7. Jordan said:

    Anyone else think finding out the sex immediately is a consequence of anxiety?! I myself could never wait either- I envy those that do! Congrats to you guys I’m so excited!

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  8. Libby Prakel said:

    Congratulations! A boy! So very excited for you and your family!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  9. Sara said:

    I have 3.5 year old boy/girl twins. Tell Amalia that my son LOVES dressing up like Elsa (my daughter too)! Congratulations!!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  10. Laura said:

    Congratulations!! So exciting and so happy for you and your family! Also so happy you only have to take photos once that’s coming from a fellow mama who is 17 weeks pregnant with my second boy and have alllll the morning sickness. Would you mind sharing the psychic information? Have been looking for one and especially now with a lot of pregnancy issues would love to chat. Thanks Julia! Xo
    Laura

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    • Catherine said:

      Congratulations, Julia! So so exciting. I would love to know this psychic’s information too! 🙂

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  11. Chrissy said:

    Yay!!!!!!! So excited for all of you!!!
    It’s fun being a mom to both!
    Crying that Amalia will be dressing him up as
    Elsa!!!!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  12. Julia Zaborowski-Casper said:

    Eeek! Congratulations Julia! I have a 4 year old girl and just had a baby boy as well! To be totally honest ,I was a little disappointed when I found out it was going to be a boy because I wanted a sister for my daughter (and she desperately wanted a sister) but now that he is here we couldn’t imagine it any other way and are beyond grateful to have one of each! I’m so excited for you and your precious family! Thanks for sharing the journey with us! Sending love and positive energy from NYC!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  13. Emily said:

    I’m crying! So so happy for you and your family! Congratulations!!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  14. Amy said:

    My guess was girl, but I am so happy to hear you are adding a BOY to your family. Congratulations to all! I can tell you from experience boys are so sweet to their mamas! Xx

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  15. Allie said:

    Congrats! It does make it more real to know the sex, doesn’t it? I’m a few weeks ahead of you with our Baby Girl #2 and found out the gender at 20 weeks. Ever since then it’s been so much more fun! Enjoy this ray of light during a dark time!

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  16. Lauren said:

    Congratulations!!!! What wonderful news. As a mother of a girl and boy I totally understand your feeling that the puzzle is complete. So thrilled for you and your family.

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  17. Jackie V. said:

    Congratulations!! So exciting! So happy for you and your family

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  18. Sarah Pospisil said:

    Congratulations! I found out this weekend that our next little one is going to be a boy! Our almost 3 year old daughter is distraught. She was so set on a baby sister. I asked what we should name her baby brother and she said, “baby sister” lol! I don’t know about you but this pregnancy is SO different than my last.

    Congrats again and I’m excited to have some boy mom pregnancy and newborn content to follow along with!

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  19. Sarah said:

    Congratulations! I found out this weekend that our next little one is going to be a boy! Our almost 3 year old daughter is distraught. She was so set on a baby sister. I asked what we should name her baby brother and she said, “baby sister” lol! I don’t know about you but this pregnancy is SO different than my last.

    Congrats again and I’m excited to have some boy mom pregnancy and newborn content to follow along with!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  20. Laura said:

    congrats! as someone who waited until delivery to find out the sex of my twins, i always kind of wonder what it would’ve been like to find out in advance, though for me waiting until they were born was one of the best decisions i’ve ever made!

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  21. Kirsten said:

    Congratulations Julia! I have a 4 year old girl and a 3 month old boy and it’s so nice to watch my daughter with my son. The age difference is also pretty great. Wishing you the best for the rest of your pregnancy and birth!

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  22. Victoria said:

    Can you share the name of the psychic?

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  23. Libby said:

    I am so excited for your fam and for baby boy! When you announced your pregnancy, I thought “it is totally a boy!!” Can’t wait for that blue and white nursery, haha. Congrats guys 🙂

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  24. Karlene Barger said:

    Congratulations! Little boys are lots of fun, and they do love their mamas! (Of course, little girls do, too!)

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  25. Kelly said:

    Congrats!! Second good news this week 🙂 maybe we’re turning a corner on 2020!

    11.9.20 · Reply
  26. Daniela said:

    This is wonderful! You’re going to be the best boy mom ever! Big congrats to you and your adorably cute family 🙂
    Love from Argentina

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  27. Lizziefitz5 said:

    I am over joyed for you!!! You deserve all the happiness that a sweet boy brings his mama

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