More Than a Mom

Before I get into today’s post, I wanted to start out with a heartfelt thank you for your comments, emails, and messages about yesterday’s post. It was scary for me to hit publish on that one because I was worried about mom shaming from people who hadn’t experienced what I had, but I find that the scariest posts to write turn out to make the biggest difference in someone’s life. So thank you for your amazing response and for sharing all of your stories with me.

The other day, someone called me a “mommy blogger” and I was taken aback for a hot second there. I’ve been blogging for nine years and only one of those has involved baby content, but I guess when you’re a mom and blogger, you’re a mommy blogger? No idea how that works but I hadn’t ever described myself that way before.

For a while I felt like I should fit into a “box” to be more successful. Should I go full on mommy mode? Stick to fashion only? Did I need a niche??? Who am I? (That’s a Zoolander reference for those of you who are too young to know it)

I am a mom… But I’m more than a mom. I’m a woman who likes pretty clothes and redecorating my home. I like to cook and exercise and do the things that non-moms like to do too.

I like the fact that I am into acupuncture and crystals and rap music, my baby and martinis (not at the same time), green juices and pizza. And let me tell you, in my opinion, there is nothing wrong with being intellectual and loving the Real Housewives.

And I like the fact that I can write about what I’m wearing, home decor, recipes (for grown ups and babies), in addition to motherhood. Because who really fits into a box anyway? We’re all multi-faceted. Moms are people too.

I (usually) write only 1-2 baby-related posts per week because A) I know a lot of you don’t have kids yet and B) I think it’s important for the mom readers to have content that doesn’t involve kiddos. But we’ll see where this takes me. As a person I’m constantly evolving and growing, so I expect that to happen here too.

On a totally unrelated note, this dress is everything. From the drop waist to the shirt stripe pattern to the orange tassels, it is just perfection.

Sail to Sable Dress c/o (Long sleeved version here) / Jack Rogers Sandals / Katie Kime Earrings

Sail to Sable Dress c/o (Long sleeved version here) / Jack Rogers Sandals / Katie Kime Earrings

Photos by Julia D’Agostino.

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  1. Allie said:

    I love this dress! It’s so pretty, the coral red with the light blue just scream summer. And the flounce on the bottom is darling.
    As a reader without kids yet I like the content mix you’ve found on the blog. People like to categorize things and put them into boxes, but that doesn’t mean we need to fit into those boxes. 🙂 Have a great Thursday, xAllie
    http://www.theallthatglittersblog.com

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  2. Sarah said:

    So much yes to this! I feel like once you become a mom people expect it to completely DEFINE your identity instead of just become a PART of your identity. It doesn’t have to completely define you.
    Love this post!

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    • Julia said:

      YES! That is such a good quote, I’m going to use that someday soon 🙂

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  3. Alyssa said:

    This is so great! We are dynamic people are women and sometimes it’s so easy to just loop us into one category.

    I agree with another reader below. I don’t have children, but find all of your blog content really interesting. I find that your content about babies and being a mom really helps me relate to my friends who have kids.

    (PS. Love your outfit!)

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    • Julia said:

      Thank you for saying that!!!!! Glad you can still relate 🙂

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  4. Jessica said:

    YES to this! On a non-mom level comparison, I had the hardest time writing my “about,” because I’m this and that, this and that, and I didn’t feel niched just like you described. WHO CARES?! Be you and that’s amazing. <3

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    • Julia said:

      Exactly!!! Glad we’re on the same page here!

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  5. Gena said:

    PLEASE keep doing what you are doing! I love your baby posts, even though I am no where near having one of my own yet. They bring a genuine smile to my face and I love seeing updates on your little one! I also love your style and interior design posts, and I especially love when you touch on topics that aren’t as “run-of-the-mill” (ie posts on anxiety, your marriage with Anel and how it has changed and grown since having Amalia, etc). I think it is important for other mom’s to know that they are not JUST moms…and I think its important for moms to show their wide variety of interests so that they can be examples and sources of inspiration for their daughters. You are an inspiration to women who are mothers and who are not mothers. Keep doing you, Julia.

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    • Julia said:

      Aww that makes me so happy to hear. Thanks Gena!

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  6. Elise said:

    Beautiful dress and such great photos!

    xx, Elise
    http://www.sparkleandslippers.blogspot.com

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  7. Love that comment about Real Housewives!!! I think the Housewives fan base is largely intellectual women! It’s a nice relaxing moment in a day filled with a lot of responsibilities! haha!

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    • Julia said:

      Hahah I think so too. It’s nice to turn off our brains for a minute 🙂

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  8. You are so adorable! And I love this post! I am pregnant with my first and can totally realte to wanting to be and being more than a mom. Sure content changes over time, but that doesn’t mean you have to turn into a “mommy blogger.” I like what you share!

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    • Julia said:

      Thank you so much. And congrats!!!!

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  9. Amy said:

    As a mom of 12 & 13 year olds, I think it is absolutely fantastic to remember you are not only a mom. Never lose sight of that. You’ll get so busy that you will have times that you forget about yourself, but try to make time for the other things that bring you joy.

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    • Julia said:

      I really do try, but like you said, it can be hard!!

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