I had a really good week, and I don’t remember the last time I’ve said that with such enthusiasm when nothing super exciting happened. But I felt good, calm, happy and I had a realization that shifted how I look at my future.
This realization has to do with comparison and goals. I get asked a lot about what my plans are for the next 5 or 10 years, but for the first time in my life, I don’t really have a solid answer. I’ve always had a big goal or next step in mind and, most recently, wanted to do everything from writing a book to starting a digital marketing consulting company, but over the last few months, as I’ve been able to see things more clearly, I come to terms with the fact that it’s ok to stick with what I’m doing now and not be stressing out about the next step and wanting more more more or bigger bigger and better better.
My priorities at the moment, in this order, are 1. Being a good mother to Amalia (and wife to Anel), 2. Protecting my mental health, and 3. feeling fulfilled in my work. My career has always been important to me, and it still is, but right now I’m happy where I am. I’m not necessarily growing at the rate of my friends doing the same thing, and I can honestly say that I’m ok with that. I love my job, I love my relationships, I’m finally feeling happy and settled, and I want to spend the next year really focusing on appreciating that.
That said, I do have some exciting work-related news which is that this weekend I’m hosting an event with J.Crew (eek!) in the city. I hope some of you New Yorkers can join me at J.Crew in Columbus Circle from 12-4pm on Saturday for sips, bites, a 30% discount on all warm-weather clothes, the re-opening of their crewcuts section, and to hang with me. You can RSVP here. I hope to see you there! It feels so surreal to be hosting something at the store where I shopped constantly when I lived in the city. It is a true a pinch-me moment.
Scroll down for links around the web, some fun things (on sale!) to shop, and a Q&A that includes what perfume I wear, my top Trader Joe’s picks, my stance on immunization, and more.
Skirt (Sold out but available in gingham here and I found a similar pink maxi for $38 here) c/o/ Sweater / Shoes c/o / Earrings c/o / Amalia’s Romper c/o / Amalia’s Necklace / Lilly Pulitzer x Pottery Barn Sheet
Around the Web
Does Netflix have a killer problem? I’ve watched most of the murderous shows and movies on Netflix, but hadn’t thought much about how our obsession with violence on TV is affecting our culture. My sister sent me this article and it definitely gave me some food for thought.
My name in lights… Slash on a website. It was so exciting to see my guest room on the Joss & Main home page this week! You can shop all of the products on this page. And there’s my face. So cool!
Thoughts on inclusive sizing. I’m beyond proud of my friend Grace and everything she has accomplished lately, including her recent blog content which has been incredible. Yesterday she wrote about inclusive sizing and it was quite eye-opening to read as a blogger myself.
Breakfast blondies. I love me a good blondie… and not just because I’m blonde. I’m going to make these healthy(ish) breakfast blondies over the weekend as a good muffin alternative. They look delish!
The best packable hat. I get asked about what sunhats are great for packing on vacation and I just got one that is perfect for summer travel.
Currently reading. I’m almost done with this month’s Lemon Stripes book club pick, Bad Blood, and I’m so into the whole situation, I can’t even tell you. But I’m ready for some good fiction and I’m going to start Verity (based on recs from Bad on Paper) this weekend.
Currently watching. One of my all-time favorite comedies, Catastrophe, is back on Amazon Prime for season 4. It got a bit dark at the end of season 3 and that continues this time around but I belly laugh out loud in every single episode. If you haven’t watched it yet, binge season 1 tonight (it flies by) and thank me later!
Chic shower cap. I’ve been on the hunt for a chicer shower cap, and I finally found it here. I wash my hair every 2-3 days and need to cover it on the others. Anel makes fun of my granny shower caps, but now I’ll look tres cool. I also love this one on Amazon.
Biggest wellness trends of 2019. Someone pass the CBD!
Palm earrings. To go along perfectly with my current palm leaf obsession.
FAQs on running a small business. My friend (and designer) wrote a super in-depth and interesting post about starting and running a small business.
Pearl hair clips. All the bloggers are wearing them. But I’m pretty sure these are the most affordable pearl hair clips out there. I wore them in yesterday’s post and still can’t believe they’re only $2.60 for a three-pack! Speaking of hair accessories, how perfect is this $18 headband for summer?
1. Did you vaccinate Amalia?
Yes. I do not judge other moms on anything pretty much ever (unless they’re hurting their child) because I truly believe that we’re all just doing our best, but please please please if you’re reading this, vaccinate your child. Little kids are literally dying because parents are believing false claims about vaccines. It’s tragic and irresponsible. On the same topic, I read this article yesterday which has more facts than I can give here.
2. What are your Trader Joe’s favorites?
OMG too many to name! Maybe we need a full post on this? I love their frozen Indian food, Bambas for snacking, frozen organic brown rice packets (so easy for quick dinners), ‘Cruciferous Crunch’ salad mix, ‘everything but the bagel’ seasoning, chili lime seasoning, white bean and basil hummus, sweet potato noodles, chia seeds (cheaper than anywhere else), salsa autentica (best salsa ever), cauliflower pizza crust, freeze-dried Fuji apples, multi-seed with soy sauce rice crackers, and the peanut butter filled pretzels. I’m sure I’m forgetting a bunch and now that I’ve written out that list I for sure will write a full post on this.
4. What is your go-to breakfast recently?
My medication makes me feel nauseous unless I eat bread in the morning so I’ve been having a piece of whole wheat sourdough toast with ghee, peanut butter, jam, and chia seeds with my Earl Grey tea. I used to be more into smoothies or eggs, but this is the only thing that keeps my stomach settled so I’m sticking to it.
5. What is your favorite stage, baby or toddler?
Definitely toddler. I love being able to communicate with Amalia and laugh together. I feel a lot more connected to her now than I ever did when she was a baby. I also had pretty extreme anxiety for the baby days so that might be different the next time around, who knows!
This Week on Lemon Stripes
Photos by Julia Dags.